Life is something else I tell you. It throws you the most curve balls while riding the roller coaster but we learn how to deal. If we don't we just call on our girlfriend who always has a way to put things into perspective. Thankfully, I have one I can call on and she's a professional too which is even better.
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How do you handle losing things out of life when you
are trying to win? Do you cry? Do you fall apart? Do you shut yourself in? Do
you go in denial? Don’t be scared to answer yes, because you are not alone.
is hard for us to get back on the grind of things when we feel that everything
that we are doing is constantly knocking us down. It is very hard to lose out
on the things that we want out of life and to remain focused on achieving the
goal that we have set. Rather it is school, career, relationships, or personal
goals, often times we do not reach the goal the first go around. It seems like
that often times when we try to do great things in life, we often get thrown
off track to the point that we ask is it worth it. But what people don’t
realize is that a lot of successful people have lost almost everything in order
for them to win it all.
But how, you may ask. Well I’m not going to say that it
is easy, but will so that it is doable, but depending on how much you want it.
Here are three pointers for you to help when you are trying to win after constantly
Do you know your purpose in life? If you don’t know,
then you will never win until you realize what your purpose is. In order to
find it, you must recognize what your talents are that you are blessed with. No
talent is too small to have a place in our world, so there is no need to
compare it to others. Once you realize your purpose, you have to actively grow
into your talent and make it stronger. Even when we get knocked off the path,
we have to remember to regroup so that we can move on with the plan that is set
be the Captain of your Cheerleading Squad
Whenever we are at a loss and continue to lose, we always
want someone to cheer us on so that we can get back motivated to win. But what
about the times when our cheerleading squad is either not available to cheer or
have quit the squad. Just like a captain of the cheerleading squad, you have to
learn to cheer for yourself no matter how bad you feel about losing. Many
athletic games that were losing contributed to their major comebacks to their
cheerleaders that constantly cheered for them even when the fans stopped. We
have to learn to encourage ourselves, to tell ourselves that we did a great
job, and to tell ourselves that we will make it through this. We have to
understand the concept that no one will ever cheer for us to win, if we do not
speak the spirit in ourselves.
No one became
successful in life alone. All successful people had at least someone on their
team who was able to help them during the good times and the bad times of life.
So how do you handle the people who constantly remind you of your losses and
never encourage you attempt to win? Well that’s an easy answer; you get rid of
them. One of the main reasons why we can never get back on track on the winning
path is because we allow people in our area who mean us no good. We feel that
if you cut them off that we are being disloyal and we are not keeping it real.
Well we are being disloyal, and we are not keeping
it real, but we are doing these two things to ourselves. Once we learn to
rotate people from certain places in our lives that they no longer need to be
in and replace them with those who can help us gain a winning strategy, we will
be able to get back on track to win the game.
Everything worth having in life is worth fighting
for. Sometimes we have to be lose everything that we have in order to gain and
appreciate the winnings that are set in lives to gain. We have to understand
that many times we will fail at something but that does not equate to failure.
We have to understand that a loss does not mean that we are lost. We have to
remember that we are destined for greatness. We have to remember that sometimes
we have to lose to win again.
is a mental health counselor and consultant. She is an advocate for mental
health awareness where she blogs and conducts speaking engagements about mental
health and becoming a better person.. You can follow her on Instagram @ConsultBrandy
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